Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Delayed Like a Flight at Christmas

This date with Montana Guy is never going to happen.

I'm so annoyed that something that I wasn't even sure was a date in the first place, and wasn't even sure I was that interested in going on is turning into such a colossal pain and waste of time.

Three times we've made plans to get together on a certain day.

Three times I've kept my schedule open and mentally prepared myself for all the rigors of First Date Conversation® .

Three times I've sat around wondering when exactly he's going to call me, since I've obviously got an entirely different idea in my head as to what "convenient and appropriate" calling times are.

I almost want to employ the three strikes law here, but my stupidly guilty conscience doesn't want me to.

But at what point does it just become too ridiculous and not worth it? The first time we were supposed to go out he cancelled because a new job came up. (He's a writer of some sort and gets random freelance jobs occasionally, at least that's the impression I've gotten.) The second time, I was intending on trying to double-schedule him with The Kid until I got tired of waiting for him to call. When I called him to beg off the date, he said that he was going to have to cancel anyway. That assuaged any guilt I had over wanting to hang with The Kid instead of going on the date, but it also irritated me that he was cancelling for a second time. Then, last night, I lay in bed (because I'm a pathetic old lady and I go to bed at 9), wondering if he was ever going to call. Finally he did call, but only the cancel once again. This time, instead of trying to reschedule, he said that he would call me when he knew how his schedule was going to be a bit better.

Is it even worth bothering any more? I honestly don't know. I don't want to be rude about it, but why is there any point in trying to date if you don't even have time for a quick coffee?

Lyrics of the Day

"When you said you needed me, did you really need me or was it just someone – oh, you’d take anything. Am I first on that list of yours, or am I second, or third?" The Good Life Inmates


Nicole said...

Honey, blow him off like a bad fart.....

As the book says "He's just not that into you".

Buy it, read it, carry it around with you. Make it your bible. All women should do this...

Love your blog, keep it up.

Kiki said...

Completely true! If he wants to see you, he will MAKE TIME! Kick him to the curb and move on!

Anonymous said...

So you are beating yourself up because this one guy doesn't give you the time of day.

Stop staring at the phone and move on!

LB said...

It's so sad and funny, because I'm not even into the guy! This whole mess is a function of my over-active guilt complex.

BUT, he did call last night and is quite sure that we can get together tonight. We're doing coffee at 6:30. If, for any reason, he cancels then it's done and over. Otherwise, we'll probably just have a nice little chat about Montana and that'll probably be the extent of it.


Julie said...

Have you ever read "The Sweet Potato Queens Book of Love?" If not, I highly recommend it for its good laughs and good advice. They have a whole chapter on misbehaving boys and their advice is "git another one."

Git another one. This one isn't worth the time and energy.

Milwaukee Girl said...

Easier said than done, but not worth the time ... you've got the Kid anyway!