Sunday, July 08, 2007

The Truth of It All

Pardon my absence, I just don't know where the time goes these days. Not sitting in front of the computer at work makes it much more difficult to keep up with blogging the way that I should.

When I said that weekend in Los Angeles was monumental, I wasn't just talking about the fact that Prince Charming and I said, "I love you." There was more to it than that. I hinted at it when I mentioned the comment he made to his friend about marrying me. That seemed like an off-hand sort of comment at the time , but the truth of it is...

We really are going to get married. And have babies. Starting tomorrow.

Okay, I'm kidding about the tomorrow part, but only about that. Obviously Prince Charming and I realize that we still have more getting-to-know-you stuff to do, and we do think that we should live together before we get married - but at this point we just know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together.

Does that sound as huge to you guys as it does to me?

Part of me feels like I need to justify the relationship; explain how it is that we can be so sure about a relationship that is still so new and one that has taken place almost exclusively over the phone. But the other part of me just knows, just loves Prince Charming so much that nothing anyone could think or say could ever matter. It seems most crazy to me (well, to both of us really) that today is our three-month anniversary. It feels like we've been together longer, in a good way. At this point, we're talking for hours every day. We wake each other up in the morning and tell each other goodnight as we go to bed. Sometimes I'm going to bed as he's just going to work and he's going to bed as I'm getting ready in the morning, but that won't have to be the case for much longer. In three weeks I'll be leaving Baltimore for a much-needed three week vacation in Montana. And PC is coming to stay with me for 10 days - which is longer than we've ever spent together at one time. But every minute that we have spent together has just made our feelings stronger, has just made us want to spend even more time together. I have no idea how it could have happened like this, but I found The One. As strange as this is to say on what's supposed to be a dating blog - I'll never date again. I've meet the man of my dreams and the man that I'm supposed to marry and I've never been happier. I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life and I've never been loved like this. It's the most amazing thing in the entire world.

Lyrics of the Day

You said you found her and you would make her your bride, stand by her till you die. And your tender eyes, they'll glisten with pride and your smile so satisfied." Maria Taylor Hitched!


Eve said...

I think that's lovely. Congratulations! I hope one day to find what you have found :)

Government Peon said...

I wish you guys a lot of luck. Just please try to stay grounded a bit. He may very well be "The One", then again, you guys really do need the time together to really know for sure. 3-6 months is called a honeymoon stage for a reason and I think that is even more true when the majority of that time has been spent over the phone. Lest you think I am trying to rain on your parade, I really want to say that the romantic part of me really hopes all your dreams come true.

I just just know from my own experience, as well as the experiences of others that I have seen first hand, that basing too much too fast on long distance is not good. I "fell in love" with a guy from hawaii and for over a year we "dated" exclusively over the phone with a couple of visits. We talked for hours every day, several times a day despite a time difference spanning several time zones. We seemed perfect for each other... But then it was weird. After aa eyar of just talkign when it came time and we had plans to actually be together, things seemed to fizzle. I had lost my physical attraction for him and I think it was mostly an emotional attraction from the beginning anyway and it just seemed that because of all the talkign we did, there was nothing left to say. We called it off. We're still fairly close friends though despite a few thousand mile distance.

Then there was my brother who in his travels met a girl he liked so much that they "dated" long distance for over 6 months and he planned to move to where she was, even quitting his job here to be where she was. She flew here and met the family and all that good stuff and send all the appropriate cards to my parents for birthdays and christmas, etc. and chatted on the phone with my mom. Well, he moved in with her (several thousand miles from here) and within two weeks, he left. She called my mom to "tell her he had left on a bicycle with only a backpack". We didn't hear from him for a couple months and when we did he was with another girl already... OOOOkay....

I've been following your dating adventures for a while now and have really enjoyed the good, the bad, and the ugly as it were. I'll definitely miss the dating stories if this is it. I hope you find happiness and hope the future happens as you imagine it. I always call to mind a saying I heard once. I don't remember who said it but it is so true. "Life is what happens while you are making plans."

Good luck!!!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations! I am a long time lurker here and thought now would be an appropriate time to comment! I think it is wonderful and you should definitely follow your heart. I understand what govt peon is trying to say but you know what is real! I hope that you won't shut down the blog--here is to "Misadventures in Wedding Planning" :)

Brewed in Texas said...

Just surfed onto your web site and read the past few posts. GP how often did you see your long distance? Sounds like this lady and Prince Charming have seen each other quite a bit. Hopefully that weighs in their favor.

It's excellent that your family and friends liked him. Wishing you the best of luck.