tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26991214.post7654367125422912890..comments2023-10-29T04:01:57.176-04:00Comments on Misadventures in Internet Dating: The Castle CrumblesLBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07214743808940339418noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26991214.post-36419202816764970902008-05-09T08:35:00.000-04:002008-05-09T08:35:00.000-04:00I completely understand your feeling smothered-- I...I completely understand your feeling smothered-- I have an ex who was totally like that. And while initially he seemed sweet and endearing, it quickly drove me up the wall. Similar to your description, I am very independent-- I also love to talk, so I did not predict that this particular ex would make me batty. But I think with guys like that, it's more than wanting to talk all the time-- it's like they can't make a move on their own, or something. Ugh... I feel your pain!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26991214.post-21025454961752458572008-04-21T00:16:00.000-04:002008-04-21T00:16:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope pu...I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope putting it out there on your blog is helping...Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15434889674255673330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26991214.post-75984133505937773252008-04-20T22:45:00.000-04:002008-04-20T22:45:00.000-04:00So I've been very quickly addicted to your blog fr...So I've been very quickly addicted to your blog from beginning to end in a very short period of time. I created my blog not to long ago and have yet to write anything because I do not yet know what to say. Let me just say yours is funny, creative, full of insight and both helpful/ comforting with every story. But it's also really sad, and the sadness comes from what has been posted most recently. PC seems like a great guy, but it also seems like he has fallen behind in some ways. But it also seems like you have to, and not to say that that it's wrong of you in any way, but it's very easy to do when things aren't going how one wants or expects. Has he ever told you that he wants to get better at any of these things? "Being needy" or "giving you more space?" One thing it seems is that how he has acted makes some sense. I'm it's been hard for him to not have these characteristics with how things have been changing and stressful for him in his life, especially with him going with you around the country. That's why I agree with you that's it's important for him to communicate with others instead of only you. But with everything that has been changing in his life in the last 6 months you are really all he's had to invest in, and not saying it's right, but it like I said makes sense that he's been like this even though it's possible that these may not be natural characteristics for him. Which is why, I agree, that he needs other outlets, which I'm sure will be easy and possible for him being the people person that he is.<BR/> It seems like he loves you very much, especially since you have said that he is wanting more than anything to rectify the situation. You did say that he is starting to help a lot with finances and that he had pleaded with you to give him a chance. Simply this is enough to invest some trust in him. I know your happiness was not fake in the relationship, and there has to be some moments of happiness now. More than anything, since this stress has had so much time to build, slowly and progressively, as you have said, don't you think that it will take time for the situation to rectify itself? I am one of those women who want someone, not exactly like or unlike PC, but someone who loves me, takes care of me, and most of all completely willing to help make needed and possible changes in such a potentially (and Im sure rectifiable and fixable situation with so much potential for renewed happiness) and again wonderful relationship. It's very sad to hear that things have gone bad, but again I am impressed that you have stayed together through so much stress and changes, and that simply says a great deal about your relationship. I'm sure there's a very small percentage of them that could last when they haven't been in existence very long and have been through the many unavoidable hardships that you guys have had. I say stick it out, because even though sometimes it may be unbearably hard now, I just know in my heart that you two could go the distance. <BR/> I apologize for such a long post but your writing inspires me to write about my love life and "misadventures" and I hope one day I hope I can have the love that you have and I know will be better if PC does what he says he's committed to doing. <BR/> P.S I Think it's completely natural to have dreams about ex's in times of overly stressful situations, but they don't mean or symbolize that things would be any better with those people or that that's what you really need or want.<BR/> Good Luck, and I will stay updated!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com